BDSM – How To Tell Your Partner You Like Kinky Sex

BDSM – How To Tell Your Partner You Like Kinky Sex

Are you into some kinky stuff?

Maybe you just recently got interested in some aspects of BDSM and don’t know how to tell your SO, but you secretly wish for your kinky sex desires to be fulfilled. Read more if you are not sure yet if you are into it. But if you are, we are going to try and find a way to tell the person you want to do it with.

The best way to have a healthy relationship, both emotional and sexual is a conversation.

Talking with your partner about your fantasies, wishes and desires will most likely give you what you want and need. Even though being honest about delicate things can be hard, it’s still the best way to go. And if you can gather the courage, to be honest about what you secretly wish for, it will be so much better when you start doing all those sexy things.

First, you should think about what you want to say. You should express your desires as something fun and intimate, not as something wrong or scary. You want to let your partner know that this is important to you and that it will bring both of you pleasure and even deeper connection. Be sure to mention that you love everything he or she does in bed and that you love your sex. Let them know that there is nothing wrong with the way things are now and that you believe your wishes can make everything even better.

When you talk about your fantasies make sure you start with simple, easy ones.

You don’t want to scare your partner by saying you want to be tied down, suppressed and whipped. It’s better to start with adding light bondage to your next sexy meeting and slowly work your way up. Especially if both of you are new to kinky sex.

When you talk about sex, try to bring out all good and sexy about it. Talk about how it makes you feel and how hot it would be for you if your partner did it to you. Tell them about your fantasy with him or her in the main role and how it kept you wet all day. Then ask for their fantasy and let them know that you would be happy to fulfill it. You can even ask him/her to write a list and you can both make fantasies come to life, one by one.

Last, be aware that some people are just not into kinky sex.

Make sure that you are ready to hear no from your SO. Can you be in a relationship without kinky sex and want to stay with your partner even if he/she is not into it? If you do, then make sure to say that whatever they say or feel about it won’t change your relationship. On the other hand, if you think that you can’t or you just don’t want to be in a relationship without exploring new things with your partner than prepare yourself to whatever you want to do if you get a no as an answer.

I definitely recommend taking some time to yourself. Think thoroughly about what you want to say and how you are going to say it. Make it simple and make it fun. Start small. And most important – relax. Most people are kinky in some way. You may find out that your partner wanted to have the same conversation with you but just didn’t know how to start.

Have you ever had this talk with your partner? How did it go? Share your story with us, we would love to hear it.

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