Q&A: Kara Sutra Reviews

One by one, we came to our 7th interview with (famous) sex bloggers.

What makes me even happier is that all the articles together make up to one decent-sized knowledge treasure chest. Experience is one of the best schools one can have in life and that is what is common to all our guests. Incredible!

Link to our Q&A hub page is located at the bottom of this article, so dive in and see what they have to say.

Kara_Sutra Reviews

Our today’s guest is a seasoned sex blogger – Kara_Sutra. As she says for herself – she is a sex-positive advocate, reviewer, vlogger, branding, media, and publicity creation consultant.

Her best project so far is a series of videos on Youtube, called Sex Ed 102. Until now, all the videos published have gained over 17 million views – which is very impressive.

From 2007. when she started the series, Kara_Sutra educates people on topics like sex positivity, pleasure products, sex tips, tricks, & techniques, contraception options, and more. All the videos are ”sprinkled” with her signature humor and style. Kara_Sutra is frequently described as ‘adorably accessible, friendly and funny’ – be sure to find out why.

Throughout all the years of hard work, she was featured in publications like Sexlife Canada, Xbiz Premiere, and on other (sex) blogs like Kinkly.

Q&A – Kara_Sutra

What advice would you give to someone just starting a sex blog?

That’s a loaded question. Point blank, don’t do it for the money. I see so many sites claiming that bloggers can get rich (or make an easy steady living) off of sex blogs. The truth of the matter is for the first couple years (maybe more) you’ll have to treat it like a job if you want to make a living. And even then the commissions and sponsorships will likely be few and far between.

You’ll have to write consistently, build relationships with brands, spend money out of pocket on toys, grow your social media channels (you’ll need a following to get sponsorships), be willing to put yourself out there for trolling, and create/maintain a really great website, among many other things.

That said, the only reason to do it is that you have a genuine interest in sex toys/sex, want to educate others, and like to write and/or create videos. In the end, it’s that interest and enjoyment that will sustain you and your blog when you start to struggle and feel like throwing in the towel.

How did you decide to start one? Is it worth it, money-wise?

In all honesty, it happened by fluke for me. Back in 2006, I was working in a sex shop and a customer asked a question about pleasing his partner.  He stated that he “poked his girlfriends’ vagina and it didn’t do anything“. I wasn’t sure what he meant so I motioned by poking the palm of my hand and asked “do you mean you actually *poked* her vagina?”, to which he replied, “yes, and it didn’t do anything”.

That was a lightbulb moment for me, two things went through my head; who told him to poke her?… and, that poor girl lying there with her boyfriend poking her in the most vulnerable of moments and expecting something to happen. I was dumbfounded and disappointed.

That night I went home and made a video describing the encounter and put it up on YouTube (the point of the video was to tell people not to *poke* vaginas/vulvas). Within a few hours the video had over 1 million views (back then a million views was a viral video).  After that my inbox was bombarded with questions about sex. Some were about sex toys, others were for tips on being a good lover, but most were asking about common misconceptions regarding sex.

It was then that I really realized just how much misinformation was out there. I took it upon myself to start creating videos that were based around open, honest, reliable sex education. From there it just made sense to have a website where all of the information could be easily found by anyone that needed it. More than that, it also granted me the opportunity to expand the content (videos on YouTube were only 3ish minutes back in the day).

As an adult toy reviewer, do you have a favorite adult toy? Why that one?

At the end of the day there are 3 toys I cannot and will not live without;

For a clit vibe that travels well, the WeVibe Tango is my go to. It has rumbly vibrations for its size, is easy to hold and maneuver, doesn’t get in the way during intercourse, has a variety of settings, is rechargeable and discreet, has never failed me, and I love that it’s also waterproof.

Dildo wise, I’m continually drawn back to the Divine Interventions Diving Nun. The idea of banging the silicone version of a tiny Nuns face isn’t something I aspire to, however, once it’s flipped around the waves along the bottom of the shaft provide exceptional vaginal stimulation during insertion or thrusting. As for the curve in the shaft, 3 words come to mind: Amazing. G-spot. Stimulation. I’m not exactly sure how it works, but it targets the area instantly every time. No extra effort needed. No searching required. It’s like it knows, without having to try. I have yet to find another dildo that can do the same.

Lastly, when I want to get off quickly, am in need a big orgasm, desire wonderfully cushioned deep vibrations, or want something extra during intercourse, the Magic Wand can’t be beaten.

What is your favorite adult toy brand?

That’s a tough question. For lube I love Sliquid, the products they make are amazing. Even the flavored versions taste great (most companies still haven’t got this down). As for sex toys, I’ve been drawn to smaller independent companies as of late.

For creativity and originality, I absolutely adore Geeky Sex Toys, and Hole Punch Toys. When it comes to design and colors I love BS Is Nice, Godmieche, Uberrime, and Babes N Horny. Overall though, I’d have to say Fun Factory. I’ve been a fan of their work since I got into the industry 12 years ago.

What advice would you give to someone who wants to buy a sex toy? What to look for, what materials are good,..?

First and foremost, take the time to explore your body before investing in toys. Figure out what you like, whether it be clitoral, g-spot, penetration and/or thrusting, anal play, or otherwise. Once you’ve got that figured out you’ll be better equipped to narrow down what you’re specifically after. There’s no point buying a dildo if you really enjoy clitoral stimulation.

From there I’d suggest buying inexpensive (but body safe) toys so that you can gauge the type of stimulation you prefer. If you buy a clit vibe and it’s not strong enough, or too strong, you’ll know what you’re looking for when spending the big bucks.  I could go on, but I think this post I created on how to choose a sex toy covers everything quite well.

With regard to materials, the sex toy industry isn’t regulated, allowing a plethora of crappy (read: potentially dangerous) sex toys to make their way into your bedroom drawers. When choosing a toy make sure to opt for something made of 100% medical grade silicone (not a mixture), glass, ceramic, finished wood, metal, or ABS plastic.

Your best bet for choosing body safe sex toys is to shop with reputable sex toy retailers and manufacturers.

Based on your experience, do you think that adult toys have a positive impact on life/ sex life?

Based on my experience I think adult toys have a positive impact on the lives of those who use them. They allow us to explore our bodies and sexuality, experience sensations we otherwise wouldn’t be able to, offer a means of sexual gratification that is both liberating and fulfilling, while also bringing potential fun into the bedroom.

No matter the type of content you’re looking for there are a plethora of books available on sex and sex education. A few of my favorites are listed below;

When it comes to books that literally cover it all, Guide To Getting It On by Paul Joannides Psy.D (the shortened version can be found here) is the end all be all. This book is quite possibly the best reference book ever written about sex. It’s entertaining, educational, engaging, and has something everyone, no matter the experience level.

Originally published in 1972, The Joy Of Sex has been updated with lots of new information that’s insightful and useful for anyone wanting to learn about sex.  It’s an easy read, comes with pictures, and should definitely be part of a sex reference collection.

For those looking to please anyone with a vulva, She Comes First is a pretty good read. There’s ample information about giving and receiving sexual pleasure via cunnilingus and vaginal stimulation, setting the mood, technical sex ed, as well as exploring and learning about your partner’s body. I highly suggest giving it a read.

How To Be a Great Lover by Lou Paget. This book is for anyone looking to please partners with a penis. Although it was written in 1999, the content is still relevant today.  It’s a quick read that’s filled with explicit tips and tricks, helpful visual diagrams, and tons of quality information anyone could easily grasp.  If you’re looking for reading that’s as insightful as it is fun, I can’t recommend this book enough.

In regard to videos, doing a quick YouTube search will bring up lots of results on whatever topic you’re interested in. Before going that route I’d suggest doing your own research first, otherwise, t might be hard to decipher what’s reliable and honest vs someone just blabbering on with no actual education to pull from.

Separate from that, I think personal experience, whether it be exploring your own body or communicating openly with your partner(s) about likes and dislikes, can be a great way to learn.

In all honesty, I have no idea. I’m sure there are studies that have been done but I don’t know if they were trans-inclusive, how they’d legitimately keep track, and whether or not the studies were worldwide. There are still many countries (even a state, I see you Alabama) where sex toys are illegal. Let’s add the guilt, shame, embarrassment, and fear that comes with sex (and sex toys) that would keep people from telling the truth, whether for moral or religious reasons, and I doubt there would be a genuine statistic.