How To Negotiate A BDSM Scene (Beginner's Checklist)
Great scenes are built before anyone touches anyone. Here's exactly how to negotiate a BDSM scene - limits, safewords, expectations - with a fill-in checklist.
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BDSM Safewords & The Traffic-Light System (How To Choose & Use Them)
A safeword instantly pauses or stops a scene. Here's how to choose one, the traffic-light system, and non-verbal signals for when you can't speak.
Beginner Bondage: Safe Positions & What To Avoid
Bondage is thrilling and low-risk when you know the rules. Learn safe beginner positions, nerve and circulation safety, and the mistakes to avoid.
Blindfold Play For Beginners: Sensory Deprivation Made Easy
A blindfold is the cheapest, safest, highest-payoff way into BDSM. Here's how to use one for sensory deprivation, plus easy ideas to try tonight.
Impact Play: Choosing Your First Paddle, Flogger Or Crop
Ready to move past the bare hand? Here's how to choose your first impact toy - paddle, flogger, crop or cane - plus a safe-to-hit body map for beginners.
Dom Drop & Top Aftercare: Caring For The Dominant Too
Aftercare isn't just for submissives. Learn what Dom drop is, why tops crash after a scene, and how to give (and ask for) aftercare as a Dominant.
Dominant, Submissive Or Switch? Finding Your BDSM Role
Not sure whether you're a Dom, a sub, or a switch? This beginner-friendly guide helps you explore your BDSM role without pressure or labels.
D/s Protocols & Rituals: Simple Rules For Everyday Power Exchange
Want your dynamic to live beyond the bedroom? Learn beginner D/s protocols and rituals - simple, sustainable rules that keep power exchange alive day to day.
7 Easy BDSM Scenes To Recreate At Home
Seven complete, beginner-friendly BDSM scenes you can recreate tonight - each with a setup, a sequence and aftercare. Minimal gear, maximum fun.
Kink Consent & The Yes/No/Maybe List (Free Checklist)
Consent is the foundation of BDSM. Learn how kink consent works and use a Yes/No/Maybe list to map desires and limits with your partner - checklist included.
Power-Exchange Roleplay: 6 Scenarios For Kinky Beginners
Roleplay is the cheapest, richest kink there is. Six beginner power-exchange scenarios to recreate - with setups, dialogue starters and a safety note.
Cuffs vs Rope vs Tape vs Under-Bed Restraints: Choosing Your First
Cuffs, rope, bondage tape or under-bed straps - which restraint should a beginner buy first? A plain-English comparison of comfort, safety, cost and vibe.
Sensation Play: A Beginner's Toolkit (Ice, Feathers & Textures)
Sensation play is the gentlest, most versatile way into kink. Build a beginner toolkit from things you already own and learn how to use each one.
Temperature Play With Ice: The Safest Beginner Sensation Game
Temperature play with ice is the cheapest, safest way to explore sensation kink. Here's how to do it well, what to avoid, and ideas to try tonight.
Your First BDSM Scene: A Step-By-Step Walkthrough
Nervous about your first scene? Here's a calm, step-by-step walkthrough - from planning and warm-up to peak and aftercare - you can follow tonight.
6 Beginner-Friendly Ways to Celebrate Fetish Month
Wield your crop and slip into your leather harness; it’s time to celebrate fetish month. …
From Vanilla To Slave In Less Than A Week: My Lock The Cock Journey
It’s been an interesting fortnight to say the least. Never in my wildest dreams did …
10 Ways To Playfully Torment Your Chastity Cage Partner
The lights are low, there’s soft porn playing in the background and your lover is …
8 Sexy Chastity Cage Play Ideas
Abstaining from masturbation and sex can be challenging, but with a chastity cage locked onto …
17 Tips For Flogging, According To Kiss
Flogging, creating moans of agony and pleasure through the ages. Being used in ancient times …
How To Use A Ball Gag + Kinky Ways To Use A Mouth Gag
Ball gags are a common toy among kinkier folks and folks practicing BDSM but are …
Erotic Hypnosis: What Is It & Should You Even Try It
Hypnosis is a treatment that has been used since the late 18th century to treat …
Consensual Non-Consent: Your Guide To CNC Scenes
Trigger warning: This article is about the consensual non-consent and involves topics, like rape fantasies, …
How To Tell Your Partner You’re Into Kinky Sex
Breaking the news to a partner that you’re into kinky sex isn’t always the easiest …
40 BDSM Punishment Ideas: How To Punish Your Submissive
Rewards and discipline are an important aspect of many D/s relationships, and (when done right) …
8 Ways To Be The Best (Worst) BDSM Brat
To some, being a brat may seem a little contradictory to the ‘submissive’ stereotype, but …
Erotic Spanking For Beginners: How To Spank Your Partner
When you think of kinky sex or BDSM, what’s the first thing that comes to …
BDSM Aftercare: 10 Ways To Care For Your Sub
It’s no secret that BDSM play can be physically and mentally intense, especially for a …
Bondage Rope: What Rope Is The Best For Bondage?
Probably the first question that pops into your mind, after you decided to dive into …
What Does BDSM Stand For And What Is It?
Does the word BDSM invoke thoughts of pain, spikes, dungeons? Does it freak you out? …
What Is Bondage And Why Is It Sexy?
If you imagine being on all fours with your knees tied to your elbows while …
How To Be A Dom: 30 Tips For Beginners
So, you’ve decided that being a Dom is the role for you – congratulations! Continue …
Foot Fetish: What Turns People On About Feet
When someone mentions the word fetish, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Podophilia? …
6 Different Ways To Tickle Your Partner
Every person knows what tickling is and how it works, but not everyone tried tickling …
How To Use Wartenberg Pinwheel For BDSM & Sensation Play?
Wartenberg wheels are some of the best- and most overlooked – sensation tools for BDSM …
9 BDSM Books To Add To Your Reading List
BDSM lovers know and enjoy what the abbreviation stands for – Bondage, Discipline, Domination & …
11 Essential Books About Bondage (2020)
Want to learn bondage? Great. The following list of essential books about bondage is the …
The Beauty Of Submission
The Beauty of Submission
7 Everyday Things To Use For Bondage
After we did the how to do a single column tie video, one question crossed …
How To Use Bondage Tape 8+ Kinky Ways
Bondage tape can be a blast – we’ve got more than 8 kinky and playful …
Submissive Positions In 15 Unique (NSFW) Pictures
When you submit to a master or mistress you offer your servitude, offering your mind …
BDSM Pet Play 101: All You Need To Know
Pet play BDSM has grown by a lot since it first appeared in the early …
DDlg: Everything You Need to Know
DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/ little girl. What is DDlg? DDLG, or DD/lg, stands for …
What Is FetLife & How To Create An Account?
FetLife is like Facebook, just kinky. After 15 interviews with various people from the industry …
56 Ideas For BDSM Slave Training (NSFW)
Master/ slave or M/s is a part/ variation od D/s relationships, in which Master has …
Safety In BDSM: RACK, SSC, and PRICK
What stands behind these acronyms in BDSM – RACK, SSC, PRICK, and CCC? As the …
Wax Play: A Start-To-Finish Guide
One short sentence – and that is how I ended up being bottom in our …
FemDom: Why Do Some Men Like To Get Whipped?
Leather suits and whips are what comes to my mind if you say FemDom. What …
D/s Relationship: Beginners Guide And Infographic
What is a D/s relationship, what D/s stands for, and a little bit more about …
We Recommend BDSM Library (NSFW)
If you want more than a regular sex story, then BDSM library is something for …
BDSM Collar Guide For A Happy Submissive
Welcome to the complete BDSM collar guide. Traditionally, collars are part of clothing that fastens …