DDlg: Everything You Need to Know

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/ little girl.

What is DDlg?

DDLG, or DD/lg, stands for Daddy Dom/ little girl. DDLG is by definition a form of ageplay, which is a kink/ fetish where one is a caregiver or daddy, while the other one is a child. It is not a relationship between a father and a child (daughter).

Ageplay

Ageplay is a form of roleplaying in which one acts or treats another as if they were a different age – hence, ageplay. It is a play, between two CONSENTING adults. As a play, ageplay can be sexual or non-sexual, depending on the agreement. Ageplay is part BDSM.

Power dynamics in DDlg relationship

In most of the DDLG relationships, Daddy dom is a Dominant one, while the little girl is the submissive one. However, ageplay is not gender-specific and it can be played in a way where there are a mommy and a little boy or between people of the same sex, where there is a caregiver and a little. Why not make yourself more familiar with power dynamics in BDSM?

DDLG or ageplay does not include incest, or pedophilia, or sex with minors and it does not have to include sex. Every relationship is individual and it ranges from vanilla to hardcore.

DDlg explained

For the sake of this article, I will stick to Daddy Dom/ little girl relationship, although it is the same for all other combinations.

The little girl completely embraces her inner child, while Daddy Dom takes care of his little. I find similarity with BDSM in the fact that DDLG also emphasizes protection, training, devotion, guidance, and trust. And also sometimes – punishments.

Rules and punishments are somewhat more gentle than in some BDSM plays. Daddy Dom’s role is more similar to the parental one (it is more nurturing and affectionate). At the same time, little enjoy in child activities, like playing with toys,…

Both roles are usually a way to relieve stress and escape the responsibilities of everyday life.

But, don’t be mistaken – while all this sounds innocent and vanilla, DDlg plays often include sex & kinky BDSM plays, accompanied with vanilla to hardcore punishments. It all depends on you and how you like it.

How to play DDlg?

I’ll try to explain and give some general direction in how you could play DDLG.

In my personal opinion – conversation is the key part of any play. That is why I’ll start with a list of questions to ask each other and get a better feeling of your personal wishes and desires.

Talking it through will help you understand your expectations and help you set up protocol.

Do you want to mix romance and sex, or do you want to keep it as a caring play?
How often do you want to play?
Do you want to play in public?
Are there any special events/ moods/ settings that make you enter Little Space?
Are you going to be a little brat or will you behave yourself? (moody, shy,..)
Are you going to submit to your Daddy Dom?
How do you imagine your ideal Daddy Dom?

Other steps that will help you define how will your play look like:

Define the names you’ll be using
Set up some ground rules
Talk & plan some activities you’ll be doing together
Define rewards & punishments
Talk about outfits, toys, and gear you might need

DDlg rules

These are the rules you can borrow. After the boundaries are set, playing will be easy. The role of a little is defined by those boundaries, which they later (probably) break and get punished for.

You have to be nice and polite.
You have to be understanding and honest.
Always call Daddy: ”Daddy” or ”Sir”.
Bedtime is at 10:00 PM, if Daddy tells you to go to bed before, you have to listen.
Adress Daddy as agreed to before.
Sir will choose your outfits, and you must ask when changing clothes; you can help with suggestions
Wash your teeth twice a day.
Eat with plastic utensils and dishes.
A good baby always uses ‘Thank you’ and ‘Please’
Hold Daddy’s hand when crossing the road.
Talk to Daddy if you feel upset about something.
Daddy will always tie your shoes and put your seatbelt.
No swearing, no talking back.
You must ask to touch your princess parts and ask again to cum.
Take your Teddy bear to bed.
Wear diapers during the night.
Always try your hardest.
Trust Daddy’s decision. Daddy always knows what is best.
Absolutely no cursing. Princesses have no need for vulgar words.
Make your bed.
Swallow with a smile.
Accept all spankings and punishments like a good girl
Give Daddy lots and lots of kisses, hugs, and cuddles.
Princess will not be a brat.
Collar to be worn at all times, unless around family.
Drink at least 4 cups of water in a day.

DDlg activities

These are some of the activities you can do together: you can do it on a daily basis or as a reward system (or both!).

Read a book together.
Coloring.
Bondage
Work together on an activity book.
Try DIY or craft of some sort.
Play with glitter.
Make a bead bracelet.
Dance.
Set up an obstacle course.
Hula hoop.
Wax play
Use chalk to draw around.
Climb a tree (be careful).
Swings.
Dress up.
Talk to you Teddy friends.
Bake a cake together.
Record funny videos.
Set up a blanket fort.
Plan a movie night.
Put your hair in pigtails or braids.
Browse your fav shops and buy cute outfits.
Search for new spanking toys.
Swim together.
Buy stickers.
Pet play
Practice makeup.
Ride a bike.
Play with your dolls.
Drink hot chocolate together.

Some ideas you can find on the blog:

Common DDlg gear & set-up

You can and are welcome to set up the whole play & play space according to your taste, in a more or less ”little”/ childish way. Here are some things to think about when setting up (in random order):