How To Use A Fleshlight: Basics & Advanced Tips

If you’ve never heard of the Fleshlight, you’re missing out! That’s why we wrote an extensive guide on how to use a Fleshlight!

The notorious Fleshlight is a masturbation sleeve and the most popular male sex toy on the market.

There are many reasons why the Fleshlight is the number one sex toy for men! It is made from lifelike material and different textures to simulate the feeling of a real vagina.

It’s a toy designed for male pleasures and big orgasms. Fleshlight is sexy, simple to use and play with, and easy to clean.

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Why do you need Fleshlight in your life?

Male sex toys have been on the scene for a long time, but there is still a big taboo around them.

Almost every woman owns at least one vibrator, which is perfectly normal and approved by society. But male sex toys and the men who use them are quickly judged or shamed by people.

We strongly encourage men of all sexual orientations to try and enjoy toys created for their pleasure. Experimenting with them has numerous benefits:

reducing stress and emotional baggage
boosting your immune system and heart rate
releasing sexual tension
playing with your partner
spoiling your soul, mind, and body
making you last longer, solo or with your partner
& many more

Ladies, sex toys can be the perfect gift for your men and will both give you a lot of pleasure.

Our absolute winner is the Pink Lady Fleshlight, which was designed for guys who want extra stimulation and realistic feeling during the play.

Gorgeous Pink Lady has a lifelike vagina entrance and tight canal for intense sensations. Suitable for both beginners and advanced players, it will definitely spice up your game.

Make it hot

When you get a new toy, you want to use it right away! Playing with Fleshlight seems simple – all you need is a lubricant, and the fun can begin.

But with our tips, you can experience the full potential of this magic toy and discover different methods for the solo, duo, or even group play.

Fleshlights feel like real human flesh, but they lack the warmth of soft skin, so you need to warm them up first.

This will be the cherry on top of your Fleshlight show because it enhances the simulation and makes it even more realistic.

You can buy the sleeve warmer, the USB-powered stick that will warmth the toy while you are relaxing on the sofa.

If you are the more DIY type, ten minutes of hot water will do the trick and make Fleshlight ready for play. Remove the sleeve from the case, and soak it in warm water for ten minutes.

Water should be warm, and not too hot – boiling water can destroy your Fleshlight before you have a chance to use it.

Lube & more lube

Lubrication is the essential step in improving the Fleshlight feel.

Because of the toy’s material, we recommend that you use only water-based lubricant.

Other lubricants can damage the sleeve, and water-based lube is also easier to clean after a party.

Get busy with your hands

The most obvious and basic way to use the Fleshlight is to slide your penis into the sleeve and move it up and down using your hands. It’s like masturbation, but with a super soft and realistic feeling.

Stroking the Fleshlight by hand gives you total control over the angle and speed of the movements, so you can quickly adjust the tempo and the view.

Playing with your hands can become uncomfortable after a while because of the Fleshlight size.

They can be too big to use with just one hand, so you will need to play with both hands or find the smaller version of the Fleshlight. If you love hand stroking, get yourself a small Fleshlight model.

Try hands-free

If you want to experience the full potential of Fleshlight, try it without using your hands. The hands-free method creates a more realistic sensation because you move and thrust your hips to the climax.

You can buy a mount; a device created to hold and stabilize the Fleshlight for you. Choose between hands-free shower mounts, doggy style, and missionary mounts, or moveable mounts.

If you want to experiment before buying the mount, you can try different hacks to enjoy your toy hands-free.

The only two things you need are imagination and Fleshlight.

Your DIY mount can be a pile of pillows or blankets. Put the Fleshlight inside, secure it with the belt, insert the lube in the sleeve and hump it.

Another idea is to place the Fleshlight between the mattress and the bed frame. Use the extra pillow for your knees and enjoy the homemade mount. You can also use the sleeping bag, shoes, or anything else in your house to stabilize your toy for the play.

Fleshlight can also be used without the case – remove the sleeve and try this method. By using only the sleeve, you will get more control over intensity, speed, and grip.

Invite your partner

Fleshlight was not invented only for solo play! Using this magical toy with your lover can spice things up and bring you both multiple orgasms.

Try it together during the foreplay or for edging (this is the best Fleshlight for stamina training). Let your partner watch you masturbate using Fleshlight or give it to her to be in control.

The Quickshot Vantage model is the ideal Fleshlight for couples because of the open-ended design and clear case.

Your partner can spoil you with the blowjob while you are using the Fleshlight, and a transparent case will help with a sexier preview.

Always clean your toy

If you take care of your Fleshlight and clean it after use, it will last longer. When finished, wash it with warm water and give it time to dry completely.

Do not use soap or place it on a hot spot such as a radiator – this can damage the sensitive material of the sleeve. You can always invest into Renewer Powder and/or Antibacterial cleaner, which are made exactly for Fleshlight toys.

Final thoughts

Fleshlight is an amazing sex toy for solo, duo, or even group play.

Stroking by hand or using a homemade or proper mount are the most known methods for masturbation, but your imagination can go beyond those ideas. Prepare your Fleshlight, use warm water and lube and then enjoy the adventure.

Fleshlight is also the perfect toy for couples who want to experiment in the bedroom or anywhere else. Try it together, or you can show her how you are enjoying the Fleshlight alone.

We recommend the Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina – with stimulating textures and tighter inner canals, this model is perfect for edging and couple play.

Let your lady use the Pink Lady Stamina on you for a delayed and intense climax.

Grab your favorite toy, water-based lube, and explore your imagination!