Tantric Sex: How To Practice It & What Positions To Try

We live in a fast-paced world, where everyone is rushing, and we daily operate at high speed. We never have enough time, which is reflected in our health, personal lives, and relationships.

Partners and lovers in our hectic era can often feel disconnected as we don’t have the energy to nurture our relationships. Many partners struggle with unsatisfied sex life and lack of intimacy.

Tantric sex is the exact opposite of our busy and fast life. The main goal of tantric sex is to be present at the moment to achieve a fulfilling experience and to connect with your partner.

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What is tantric sex?

The roots of tantric sex came from ancient India, more than 5000 years ago, as part of the spiritual practice known as tantra. Tantra is a way of living that focuses on high consciousness and spiritualism.

In Sanskrit, the word tantra means to weave as weaving together the physical and the spiritual. Tantric sex is not centered on orgasm but on the slow and deep adventure that allows lovers to relax, explore and appreciate the moment.

With breathing, eye contact, and touch, your only concern should be to enjoy every sensation. It is the sexual method that enables you to disconnect from stressful life and unite with your partner on a deeper level.

Benefits of tantric sex

Tantric sex has many benefits and positive consequences for the soul, mind, and body:

physical benefits such as lower blood pressure, better immune system, and heart health, reduced anxiety and depression, better sleep, stress relief, etc.
increased breathing during tantric sex improves body detoxification and blood circulation
new, slow and mindful sex that you haven’t experienced before
awakening sexual energy and discovering your body
teach you how to enjoy at the moment
improves your life and sex life
longer and sensual lovemaking sessions
experiencing a deep connection and intimacy with your partner
it can heal psychological barriers and sexual trauma or shame
positive impact on your relationship with your partner
it can help people with penises with premature ejaculations and erectile dysfunctions
Multiple, full-body, and deep orgasms

How to prepare your mind for tantric sex?

Tantra is a spiritual practice where you connect your mind, body, and soul. Lovers should mentally prepare for the event so that they can enjoy the moment with a clear mindset.

Yoga and meditation will help you prepare your mind, increase body awareness, control your breathing, balance yourself, and relieve stress. These are ideal foundations for beginners who want to experience amazing tantric sex.

How to prepare your space for tantric sex?

Clean and organize your room or space. Some light scented candles or incenses and put music to create a peaceful environment
Dim the lights in the room, and use candles or LED lights to create the right atmosphere for tantric sex
Get rid of phones and disturbing items like dirty laundry. If you want to focus on the present, you should remove things that can quickly distract you.
Bring blankets, pillows, decorations, lights, chocolate, flowers, and treats that give you pleasure. Spoil and nurture each other during sensual sex.

Tantric sex tips and tricks

Before you dive into the world of tantric sex, let go of all the expectations. There are no rules; only that you should allow yourself to be present at the moment. And because we are always worried about the future or the past, being present can be a challenge. Letting go of all the expectations and ideas of tantric sex will allow you to focus on the here and now.
Sensual sex has no goal like an orgasm. It is about enjoying the process and connecting with a partner.
Don’t do it if you have any plans or errands later. Don’t rush or be under pressure as time in tantric sex doesn’t exist. It is about both partners connecting, exploring your sensations, and making love. And as the tantric sex doesn’t have an orgasm tick-ticking bomb, the session could last and last till you both want it.
You can shower or take a bath and dress nicely to honor the experience. The whole “preparing procedure” will make it more exciting and unique.
When you are ready, first bring yourself into the present by being aware of the space, your partner, your body, kisses, touches, feelings, and emotions. Center on the body sensations and welcome them.
Focus on your breathing and synchronize it with your partner – inhale and exhale several times to reunite and enjoy this wonderful moment together.
Look into your partner’s eyes as you breathe. Intense eye contact will help you feel closer and connected. Don’t worry if you feel uncomfortable at first and want to look away.
Give yourself time to explore your partner’s eyes and to build intimacy. Many partners hold hands, which encourages a deep bond between them.
You can pamper your bodies and senses with a tantric massage. Help yourself with oil or lubricant and slowly awaken your partner’s sensations with the luxurious massage. Concentrate on the whole body and nurture the neglected parts with your touch and energy. Connect with them, be aware of their reactions, spoil them without rushing, and then switch places.
Tantric sex can also be a solo experience during masturbating. Organize and clean your space, bring the treats and light candles, or play music. Then prepare yourself, shower or bath, and chose a lovely and comfortable outfit. Focus on breathing and enjoy the present. Explore your body with touches and massages and focus on different physical sensations. Try different positions, toys, lubricants, and lotions while focusing on the pleasure of soul, mind, and body.

Tantric sex positions

There is no wrong or right position for tantric sex. Lovers can spontaneously decide what feels good in the moment. Breathing, eye contact, and touch will show you how and in what position you should continue.

Sex experts recommend a comfortable position for beginners, where the body and mind can relax.

Yab Yum is the traditional tantric position where you sit in the partner’s lap with your ankles crossed behind their back. It is an ideal position where you are in intimate contact while breathing and gazing at each other.

Spooning is a great cuddle or sexual position where partners exchange their energy, love, and affection. One lover lies close behind the other and hugs them with arms, legs, or whole body. Inhale, exhale and share energy, touch, and tension between you.

Scissoring is an intense position where partners can stimulate passions and senses through eye contact. It is a comfortable pose, where bodies can relax and move together in their slow rhythm.

Breathing techniques for tantric sex

Tantric union breathing is a simple breathing exercise for beginners that can be practiced in the Yab Yum position. When you sit on your partner’s lap, first make deep eye contact and start breathing together.

Harmonize your breathing patterns until they match – try with a deep breath in, hold, breath out, and repeat ten times. This technique will connect you and awaken your sexual energy.

You can perform another breathing exercise in the spooning position, which is also the perfect pose for tantric sex. Lie down together with one partner hugging the other from behind.

Close your eyes, start breathing slowly, and try to synchronize each other’s breathing with deep inhales and exhales. The spooning position harmonizes and exchanges energy between the partners.

If you feel you can’t connect with your partner’s breathing, try a technique called breath counting. You can both focus on breathing while sitting opposite each other. This exercise will help you clear your mind, connect with your partner and focus on the moment.

Close your eyes and breathe normally for a few seconds
Inhale and count “one” in your mind as you exhale
Allow the breath to flow back in and count “two” when you exhale
Count to “ten” and start again from “one”
If you notice that your mind and attention wandered off from the counting, start again with “one” without pressure
Keep counting for 10 minutes.

Final thoughts

Tantric sex can be the perfect way to experiment and spice up your love life. It is also the answer for lovers who feel disconnected or dissatisfied in their relationships, not just in sex life.

In our fast-paced world, we often forget how to slow down and take time for partners. Tantric sex will bring you closer, improve your intimate bond and introduce you to sensual lovemaking.