There’s nothing wrong with a quickie – sometimes a fast and furious screw against the wall is just what I need. But I also enjoy leisurely sex – touching, caressing, and savouring the moment. That’s why I decided to educate myself and learn more about Tantric sex.
I know the basics of meditative and sexual practice. For instance, I’m aware that Tantra stems from ancient Hinduism and Buddhism and is based upon religious and philosophical beliefs. I also know that Tantric sex involves transferring sexual energy around the body, with a focus on appreciating every sensation.
I had a chat with some friends about Tantric sex too, and they were quick to tell me that Tantric sex can be intense and produce knee-trembling orgasms. I appreciate that’s not the end-game of Tantric, as it’s all about the sexual journey rather than the orgasmic destination. However, I do love a good climax!
Keen to find out if Tantric sex would provide sexual enlightenment and help me forge a closer bond with my lover, I set off on my journey. I signed up for a short course to find out more, and here are four practical things I learned from a Tantric Sex class.
Tantric sex allows your emotions to run free
My lover says I wear my heart on my sleeve. You can usually tell whether I’m happy, sad, excited, or bored by my body language and mannerisms. I like to think I’m a content and generally happy person, but like most, I have a hidden demon or two.
I’ve faced adversity and had to deal with a few traumas. I’ll be honest, I haven’t always navigated them successfully, and I’ve buried some emotions rather than work through them. When I embarked on my Tantric sex class, I expected to tap into my emotive side, but I didn’t expect it to help unpick unresolved issues.
I’ve discovered Tantric practice is a force to be reckoned with. Tune into the caresses and strokes, and your body and mind tend to melt into a pot of delicious goo. The sensations travel through your body, and the orgasmic oomph seems to reach every finger, every toe, and every part of your being.
Tingling all over, I began to experience an emotional release I wasn’t prepared for. I started to cry and felt a rush of adrenaline as long-buried feelings came bubbling to the surface. Initially embarrassed, I’m glad it happened at the Tantric sex class the first time around, as my teacher soothed my worries and explained it was perfectly normal.
Now, when I engage in Tantric sex, I’m ready for the intensity. My lover and I look forward to the laughter and can handle the tears. We’re more open with each other, and we don’t judge. Tantric is about connection and healing – it’s brought us closer together physically and emotionally.
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Tantric sex can help resolve sexual problems
Sensual, orgasm inducing, emotionally provocative – Tantric sex has a lot going for it. However, until my Tantric sex class, I didn’t know that meditative practice could also help to resolve sexual problems.
Thankfully, I don’t have any current issues in that department, and neither does my guy, but if we do start to experience anything, it’s good to know Tantric sex may be able to help.
So, what sort of sexual problems are we talking about? Two biggies are premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. If you’ve ever had problems getting hard, or your guy has had issues getting it up, you’ll know how frustrating erectile dysfunction can be.
Whilst it’s not unusual to experience problems now and again (due to too much alcohol, tiredness, or a stressful day), long-term impotency can be a relationship game-changer.
A hard cock is an essential element for penetrative sex, but Tantric takes the focus away from getting rock-solid. Instead, you get to explore all of the body. There’s less emphasis on genitals and more on other erogenous zones.
Tantric can help with premature ejaculation, too. By slowing down sexual play, you can calm the urge to shoot your load early. Slow caresses and teasing touches help heighten pleasure without the need to immediately cum.
Of course, it’s not just men who experience sexual issues. Female orgasmic disorder (anorgasmia) is a very real problem.
Even if your partner works their pants off arousing you, anorgasmia can delay, reduce, and even prevent climax. Tantric sex can help stimulate and arouse to build up sensations and help overcome the physical and emotional blockers getting in the way.
Tantric sex gets you in sync
I love my partner, we’ve been together ages, and despite our ups and downs, we’ve managed to keep it together! Sex is usually good, but with busy lives to juggle, our connection isn’t always as strong as I feel it could be. I’m pleased to say the Tantric sex class gave me some insight into strengthening our bond by getting in sync.
I thought synchronisation might involve looking into how rhythmical our thrusting is, but when it comes to Tantric sex, it’s all about being in harmony with one another. I decided to put into practice something I learned in class, an exercise designed to promote curiosity and intimacy.
Grabbing my partner’s hand, I took him to the bedroom for some Tantric exploration.
We sat on the floor opposite one another, fully clothed and trying not to giggle as we looked into one another’s eyes. Tantric calls for calm, so we took a moment to center ourselves, then got down to the serious business of breathing.
The idea is to synchronize breathing, taking a breath in together and then exhaling. You then change things up by taking turns, so I would breathe in as my partner exhaled and vice versa.
It seemed a little odd at first, and my lover initially thought it a waste of time, but we continued, and after five minutes, we started to feel peaceful and relaxed. We kept going for the suggested ten minutes, and by the end, we definitely felt a synergy and renewed closeness.
Tantric sex can be solo
I always thought of Tantric sex as something a couple engages in to enhance their bedroom antics. Until the class, I was unaware that Tantric practice can also be a great way to improve self-love techniques.
Touching yourself still carries a sense of shame for some, and that’s a sad state of affairs. Masturbation is a superb way to get to know your own body.
To find out what feels good and work out how to pleasure yourself can unlock the door to a world of better and more fulfilling sex and orgasms. Tantric masturbation allows you to explore at your own pace, using light and gentle touches as you discover your erogenous zones.
Take a tantric sex class to boost your sex life
Attending a Tantric sex class seemed daunting at first – I wasn’t sure what to expect. But I found it very enlightening to learn that Tantric sex can promote emotional release, resolve sexual complications, and get me in sync with my lover.
It’s also nice to employ the Tantric technique for masturbation. I’ve enjoyed taking time to pleasure myself and enjoy every moment, rather than grab my vibrator and get buzzing!
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