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Cupid has his bow and arrow ready, and love is in the air. We all love a bit of romance, and as Valentine’s Day is all about pleasure, it’s the perfect time to get touchy and feely.

Whether you’re playing by yourself or playing with a lover, solo and mutual masturbation can be equally pleasurable. 

Solo play 

You don’t need a lover to turn you on and make you cum. Master a few simple techniques, and you can make self-love feel just as special as sex with your favorite lover.

Masturbation allows you to explore your own body and its sensations. I see it as the perfect way to experience different types of sexual pleasure. 

Kick off your solo fun the right way by finding a quiet space and dimming the lights, and put on sexy undies if it makes you feel hot. This is your quality time to relax and have some fun.

Self-love should make you feel good – and there’s no right or wrong way of doing it. My friend loves to jerk off to porn, but I prefer mood music to strum along to.

My pussy is always going to be my hotspot, and if you’re a penis owner, I totally understand that playing with your cock is the surefire way to shoot your load.

However, there are other erogenous zones worthy of your attention, and just because you’re flying solo, it doesn’t mean you need to skip the foreplay. Stroke your inner thighs, run your hands across your chest, and tweak your nipples if that floats your boat. 

Once I’m feeling worked up, I’ll focus my attention on my genitals. You can use your fingers to stroke and arouse your vagina, vulva, and clit. You can gently rub, squeeze, or even pinch. I like to stroke my pussy before gently inserting a finger or two.

I’ll vary the way I move by thrusting gently with my fingers, or placing my palm over my vagina lips and moving my hand in a circle. I like to change the pace and intensity too, as this stimulates me and turns me on even more. 

If you’re a penis owner, you can play with your cock and balls, stroking and rubbing to build pleasure, before giving yourself a great hand job.

When you’re feeling hard and ready to jerk off, use your dominant hand to take hold of your penis. You can use fingers or a full hand (or alternate between the two). Vary the speed and pressure by using lighter and firmer strokes as you tug. 

Sex toys are a great way to add another dimension to solo masturbation, and I’ve built up an impressive collection over time. Whichever vibrator or dildo I go for, I always use lube as it reduces friction, increases comfort, and makes the experience more pleasurable.

Penis owners aren’t left out; there are some great toys on the market for you, too, such as penis vibrators and sleeves. 

Mutual fun 

If you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day with your lover, then you can engage in mutual masturbation to mark the occasion. Mutual masturbation is an excellent way to foster intimacy and build a sexual connection with your partner, and there are plenty of ways to get it on together. 

You can play with yourself while your lover watches, and they can touch themselves at the same time. I like to slowly strip off, as I watch my guy unzip his jeans and pull out his cock.

He strokes his shaft as I slip off my bra and caress my tits. I love to watch him get hard as I turn around, pull down my knickers, bend over, and expose myself to him. 

I know he loves looking at my ass and pussy, so I purposefully spread my cheeks and lips so he gets to see the whole pretty picture. This little scenario usually sets him off wanking hard, so I take the opportunity to slip a couple of fingers into my pussy and gently thrust as I hear him panting.

I do enjoy teasing him, and we both get turned on by watching one another masturbate. 

Watching is fun, but joining in by toying with each other can be even better. We love stripping off and mutually masturbating. We still engage in foreplay first; we both enjoy caressing and kissing as it heats things up nicely. 

We explore erogenous zones. I like it when he kisses my neck and nibbles my ears, and he gets excited when I rake my fingernails across his chest and thighs.

Masturbation doesn’t need to be genital-focused; there are other fun hotspots to discover! 

That said, playing with each other’s genitals is a huge turn-on for us. We use lube as it adds pleasure to our play and improves comfort levels. I’ll often tickle his balls and cock, and allow my fingers to wander to his perineum (that’s the patch of skin between the balls and ass – and I know he likes it when I touch him there).

My man likes to make sure I’m nice and wet, and loves to use his fingers to stroke my pussy, caressing my downstairs lips while he kisses my upstairs pair. 

Sex toys can also be a great addition to your mutual masturbation experience, as the right toy can enhance sensations. Fingers are great, but toys allow for more variation as you can explore different settings, speeds, and power levels.

We’ve tried a few, and one of my favorites is a finger vibrator. I like this versatile gadget as it moves naturally and can be used to arouse the nips and clit (I’ve also used it on his frenulum – the band of tissue connecting the foreskin to the head of the penis).

We also have fun with a vibrating dildo, and I’ll often kickstart the action by using the device on myself while he watches. I can see him getting stiff and like to tease by asking if he would like to try it out on me.

The answer is always yes, and as I hand over the gadget, I feel as though I am surrendering to him, which turns us both on. 

Touch yourself and touch each other

Celebrate this Valentine’s Day in style by embracing pleasure in all its glory.

Whether you have a lover or are a solo player, masturbation is a great way to let off steam and have fun. You can become more familiar with your own body and get a better understanding of what arouses you.

If you’re playing with a partner, you get to learn what makes each other tick – always a winner for enhancing your sexual connection. 

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