From sex blogging to her favorite sex toys, and everything in-between – read what Girl on the Net had to say.
Our decision to start interviewing sex bloggers and other people from the industry turned out to be probably the best decision we had since we started this blog.
Q&A articles gave us an opportunity to talk with some great and inspiring people, people who are in a position where we eventually want to come.
Month by month, article after article, and we gradually came to our 12. Q&A. *feeling very proud* To find out who are 11 lucky interviewees – click here.
Whether you are new or you know all the names in the sex (blogging) industry, I guarantee you will be delighted.
Girl on the Net
Girl started her blog in 2011. in the UK – as a hobby and a passion and eventually, after years of persistent work – blogging became her full-time job. As she wrote, the reason she is sex blogging is ‘because I’m a pervert’ – I like sex; I like talking about it, reading about it, doing it, watching other people do it, and hearing other people’s stories.
That is why Girl on the Net blog is home to a wide array of sex content, from kinks to consent.
Sexy stories published on the blog cover many topics, and are often mixed with a political discussion about the ways in which society talks & thinks about sex.
Also, her blog is home to a solid amount of audio porn and guest posts – all of which is worth listening to and reading.
Since the beginning of the blog, Girl also wrote and published two books: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets (2013) and Girl on the Net: How A Bad Girl Fell In Love (2016).
One of the things I like the most (besides mostly everything) is the illustrations on her blog, which are very appealing and unique and a perfect addition to each of her stories.
Illustrations are created by Stuart F. Taylor – click the photo to read the article on the blog.
If you wish to contact or read more, find Girl on the Net: blog, Twitter or Facebook.
As you might have noticed until now, Girl stayed anonymous the whole time. If you think you know her, read this.
We at Spices of Lust are honored to have her as a guest, it is a small wish come true and evidence that work pays off, sooner or later. Not to hold on any longer, let’s continue to the interview.
Q&A – Girl on the Net
What advice would you give to someone just starting a sex blog?
Get writing! It is often easy to get caught up in the detail of starting a blog – the design, hosting, categories, etc, but the most important thing is to start writing and get your ideas out there.
I cringe today when I look back at some of the posts I wrote when I was starting out, but the beauty of blogging is that you can develop your writing style and your ideas as you go along, and your blog will essentially be an ever evolving thing.
That’s the main thing: get writing. Write what you feel and what you want to, and as time goes on you’ll work out which posts are successful, and what you want to write more (or less) of.
The other thing I’d advise is to think carefully about your anonymity and what you are and are not happy to share. I started off as anonymous as I could be, and now I am slightly less so: I’ll put my voice out there in audio porn for example. Anonymity is something you can’t get back once you’ve lost it, so if you’re unsure about sharing something (your name, your face, pictures of your naked body etc) don’t feel pressurised to do so.
Tell your stories, the way you want to tell them, and don’t let anyone ever tell you that you’re not a ‘real’ blogger if you don’t share more than you’re comfortable with.
How did you decide to start one?
I’ve always been interested in sex, and always wanted to be a writer, so it was probably inevitable that I’d start a sex blog at some point! I started mine shortly after I broke up with my ex, because we’d toyed with the idea of starting a blog together but he decided in the end he wasn’t keen.
Then after we broke up I found myself a bit frustrated by some of the assumptions I encountered from guys on dating sites – the old trope that women don’t really like sex and are only doing it to get love/money/whatever, and I wanted a space to talk about that, as well as share some of the adventures I was having. I asked my ex if he’d mind me sharing some of our stories anonymously too – he was up for it so that’s how the blog began!
Are there any events you recommend for a sex blogger to visit? Which one is your favorite?
Eroticon! http://eroticon.co – I first went to this event about 5 or 6 years ago and it was the most helpful and valuable thing – pivotal in helping me turn my blogging hobby into my full time career. The Eroticon community is a supportive group of incredibly talented writers, bloggers and other artists -who focus on sex and erotica.
If you’re looking for advice on blogging, writing tips, help making contacts or earning money in the sex industry, this event is incredible. I’d also recommend looking out for and joining in with blogging memes like Sinful Sunday, Wicked Wednesday, Masturbation Monday, Flash Friday and more: there are plenty of these out there and they’re a great way to hone your writing skills as well as connect with (and get noticed by) some other talented and supportive writers.
I also attended the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in the US one year – that was fantastic! I got to meet lots of US-based sex bloggers, as well as learn from some fascinating speakers about the challenges they face championing sexual freedom in different areas.
That’s a great event too and if you get the chance to go I thoroughly recommend you head along!
Do you consider yourself kinky?
Yes! I am basically fascinated by most aspects of sex, and I am game for (and turned on by) a huge variety of stuff.
My instinctive tendencies are towards submission: being used/beaten/degraded etc, but within that I’ve played in a lot of different ways. And I have a huge penchant for curiosity and new stuff – so if someone gets turned on by something I’ve not encountered before, and they come to me with wide eyed excitement saying ‘can we try this?’
I find that super hot.
Do you/ did you practice any aspect of BDSM? What do you think of it?
In general, do you think that being open to new things and trying out something like BDSM or similar can help couples in their life/ sex life?
It depends entirely on the couple. I think that sexual openness – being curious about your partners needs/desires and being willing to chat about them – is a really important thing.
But also there are some couples who are asexual, or who only enjoy sex that is more vanilla, and for them trying BDSM might be anything from boring to potentially traumatic.
The most important thing, for anyone in a sexual relationship, is communication – listening as well as speaking.
Having said that, if anyone is curious about BDSM, then trying aspects of it in your sex life can really help you to explore and discover more about your needs and desires.
It may be that you try out a few things you read about on a BDSM sex blog and find one or two that really press your buttons, or it may be that you learn your partner likes something that they’ve previously been unaware of – or too nervous to articulate to you.
I think that trying out kinks and fetishes can be a great way to add depth and breadth to your sex life, the same way exploring new bars with your partner or playing new games can bring in a whole host of extra fun. As long as no one is being pressured or coerced into doing something they don’t want to do, I’d say go for it.
About the stories you publish, are they mostly real or not? What is your favorite one?
Most of my stories are true, although recently I have started writing a bit more fiction in the mix with personal sex stories and more political blog posts (I write about feminism quite a lot and our cultural attitudes towards sex, so it’s not all porn on the site and there’s a mixture of topics in there), but yes, most of the time unless something’s specifically marked as fiction then it’s something which definitely happened. With the caveat that the human brain is often very flawed, so I can’t guarantee I’m getting all of the details entirely correct!
It’s hard to pick a favourite because I am lucky enough to have had some incredible times with exceptional people, but a recent fave was this story about watching my partner wank in the shower. I have a huge thing for watching guys masturbate, and he was kind enough to put on a show for me one day. I still remember every detail, it’s burned into my brain with hotness!
If you want popular ones, I can tell you that this post has been the most popular on my site for quite a while now – a tale about getting fucked in someone’s office.
Do you have a favorite sex toy/ BDSM toy/ gear?
- The Doxy is absolutely the best wand toy ever: https://doxymassager.
com/collections/doxy-massager - The Zumio is one of my most-used vibrators at the moment: https://myzumio.com/
- The Ambit is my favourite dildo: https://g-silicone.com/
shop/ambit-pearlescent/ - The Atom Plus is the best cock ring I have ever found: https://www.
hotoctopuss.com/product/atom- plus-perineum-stimulation/ - I am lucky enough to have a Cowgirl sex machine, which is a genuine treat to have and use: https://www.
ridethecowgirl.com/ - For BDSM equipment, while I could recommend you spreader bars (amazing) and other awesome treats, I’m going to tell you that the best value for money toy I have ever used is this cheap pair of door cuffs: https://www.sextoys.
co.uk/couples/sexual- positioning/loving-joy-door- jam-cuffs/
That’s it for today. I hope you liked the Q&A as much as we did. Stay kinky!
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