Our Q&A train just hit the 8. stop on its journey.
What journey, you might be asking yourself, are they nuts?
Well, we are a bit nuts but there is a journey, a goal, a target. Since we started Spices Of Lust blog, we did 7 – this is the 8. interview, with several well-known sex bloggers/ writers. We picked their brains about numerous topics regarding sex, sex blogs, sex toys, BDSM & more.
Perfect reading material for now, at least in NYC – where it is hot as fuck.
Super Smash Cache
Cy Smash, the owner of Super Smash Cache, is a Chaotic Neutral, switchy femme in Detroit, Michigan. Super Smash Cache is an award-winning sex toy review blog, featured on the following lists:
- Molly’s Daily Kiss and Chaturbate’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers (2018)
- Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes (2016, 2018)
- Kinkly’s Top 10 LGBTQ blogs (2018)
…as well as episode 693 of Chris Guillebeau’s Side Hustle School podcast.
Cy has a penchant for deep, cervix-stimulating penetration, and firm dildos are her favorite. Her blog is mostly reviews— if she thinks a sex toy belongs in a flaming dumpster, you’ll know.
But Super Smash Cache is also a place for sex-ed guides, sentimental stories, and the occasional article about how to live a more pleasurable life outside of the bedroom.
You can find more of my Cy’s content at supersmashcache.com and on Twitter and Instagram.
Q&A – Cy
How did you decide to start a sex blog?
I used to be SUPER popular on Fetlife, a kinky social network, where I’d have subby fans buy me gifts through a wishlist. Before that, I only had glass dildos. So when browsing through the selection available on Amazon to pick out new sex toys, I wondered, “What even IS jelly, anyway?”
I vaguely recalled some sheisty advice. One website suggested to (I kid you not) lick the dildo to see if your tongue and lips go numb. If that happens, the toy is definitely toxic. Once I found a satisfying answer about this mystery material, though, I couldn’t resist sharing it.
Too few people questioned what they put in their bodies, it seemed. That frustrated me, along with misinformation about many other sex ed topics. And my blog mostly started as a place for me to set the record straight:
- Jelly sex toys are toxic
- Debates about the G-spot’s existence are pedantic semantics
- Vibrators don’t necessarily desensitize
- The history of routine infant circumcision in America is fucked
- Cervical orgasms can and do feel amazing for many people
What advice would you give to someone just starting a sex blog?
Tap into what makes your persona unique. Is it your scathing sense of humor? Your storytelling and personal experiences? Your down-to-earth advice? Distill your best traits, who you’d like to reach out to, and what value you offer to your audience.
It’s okay if you’re unsure at first— just start writing and have fun with it. Review some toys you already have. Share the kind of sex advice that your friends often come to you for. You’ll develop your voice more with experience. But never stop assessing your motives, mission, and modus operandi.
Is it easy to monetize a sex blog?
It’s not easy. Yes, you can totally start a new sex blog in 2019 and make money, but if your heart’s not in it and you don’t genuinely love writing, you’ll tap out long before you make any profit at all.
Let’s say you’ve written 10 posts— maybe a mix of sex toy reviews and informative sex ed articles. That’s about enough for companies to know that you’re serious about creating content, and not just trying to get free stuff. Joining affiliate and review programs within the sex blogging niche isn’t complicated, once they know they can trust you.
But to make affiliate commissions, you need traffic and readers, and that takes time. There are no shortcuts. Similarly for getting companies to sponsor blog posts. There are no shortcuts to building your blog’s authority and reputation.
What is your favorite adult toy brand? Favorite adult toy?
No surprise here: my favorite adult toy brand is njoy. Some would rather have something textured and squishy, but I love the heft and firm, nearly frictionless pressure of stainless steel.
Among the njoy products, my favorite is the bludgeon-like njoy Eleven dildo. The “small” 1.75” wide end is perfect for bashing my A-spot, and the bigger, 2” bulb on the other side nestles into my G-spot for endless, effortless orgasms. Bonus: I could kill someone with it if I really wanted to.
What advice would you give to someone who wants to buy a sex toy?
First and foremost, buy something body-safe. Stick to silicone and hard materials like glass, steel, stone, ceramic, glazed wood, and hard plastic. Even if you’re on a budget, there are plenty of impressive and affordable body-safe sex toys. I especially love glass dildos because they’re elegant, easy to maintain, and often not super expensive. If you’re unsure of where to start, check out my list of favorite places to shop for sex toys.
Second, consider the tradeoff between versatility and specialization. The better a toy is at one specific task, the narrower its range of abilities is going to be, and vice versa. For example, the LELO Mona 2, BMS Pillow Talk Sassy, and Desirables Dalia are great toys for exploration if you’re unsure of what you want. But they’re not a great fit if you desire the most intense G-spot stimulation, broad vibration, or pinpoint oscillation.
Over the years, did you review any toys/products that are mostly used in the BDSM community? Which ones?
I’ve mentioned the Kinklab Neon Wand and Power Tripper before in my list of favorite partner toys. This combination turns the wearer’s body into an electrode, making it fantastic for sensation play with a partner (or partners, especially at parties). Every touch, every kiss, is electric. Or electrify conductive props. Think metal Wartenberg wheels and paddles.
We are slowly, but surely coming to our 10th Q&A article, which makes me really proud.
I hope you like what Cy had to share with us, stay tuned, share this with other kinksters and enjoy!
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