Basics Of Bondage

Basics Of Bondage

If you imagine being on all fours with your knees tied to your elbows while your partner is playing with you, how does that make you feel?

As you already know Bondage is a part of BDSM subculture. It stands for an act of physical restraining (tying, bonding) a partner for erotic or somatosensory stimulation. Somatosensory stimulation is basically a part of the nervous system that responds to changes on the surface and inside the body.

Physical restraint is possible using all kinds of tools – ropes, cuffs, bondage tape, blindfolds, gags, etc. But something simpler – like a scarf or a tie, can also be used. It can be as simple as having your arms cuffed but it can also go far as having your whole body restrained.

HISTORY

We were using ropes for many centuries and for many purposes, giving them their own history. The usage of all kinds of ropes used to be as simple as restricting a thief and making him/her unable to run away. The art of bondage though has a different history in different parts of the World. For legal purposes, we are using the act of restraining to this day. But the art of bondage also found a way to get into our bedroom. That is why we differentiate two basic or general bondages in use with your partner or in your sex life.

Western evolved for the purpose of torture. It represents tying someone so you can do other things to them; such as spanking, teasing or performing sexual acts. Western bondage associates us to being overpowered or forced down.

Eastern represents partnership for everyone involved. The focus is on sensual art. The association in this type of bondage is on making the art come into being. A form of Japanese bondage – Shibari, is a most known example. It took centuries to perfect this technique. We will talk more about Shibari in the future.

 

PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND BONDAGE – Why does it feel good?

Why does it feel so good to be restrained? There are many types of research trying to figure that out. Some of them say that while our bodies go through physical stress, they release endorphin. A hormone whose function is to reduce our perception of pain. This makes our mind feel stress free too. We often call that state of mind a “flying feeling”.

The bondage itself doesn’t always have to end with a sexual act. The most important thing in bondage game is TRUST, as one of the partners is completely vulnerable. Some people are attracted by the fact that pleasure is given to them and they don’t have to think about giving pleasure. Also, the feeling of immobility and helplessness can be a turn on. For the person that is restricting, a turn on can be the feeling of personal power, but pleasure and satisfaction can also come from seeing their partner tied up.

BEDROOM PLAY – FORM OF FOREPLAY

Many couples add some form of bondage to their bedroom play to spice things up. This type of play is usually used as a form of foreplay and mostly includes mild bondage and sexual teasing. What turns us on in this form of foreplay is the feeling of the temporary transfer of control and power.

TYPES OF BONDAGE

  • Bondage for a purpose – restraining the passive partner with purpose, making easier to spank them, or making intimate parts accessible for sexual acts
  • Decorative bondage – restraining someone to use him/her  as an aesthetic object, most commonly as a human furniture
  • Torture bondage – purposely bandaged in uncomfortable positions as a punishment in sub-dom relationships
  • Speed bondage – used in some role-plays, such as kidnapping, where tying up is done quickly
  • Film bondage – light, more for aesthetic reasons, easy to escape

Even though there are many types of bondage and many different reasons why people engage in it, there is one important thing that we can’t forget about – SAFETY. And this is exactly what we’ll be talking about in our next post.

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