Master/ slave or M/s is a part/ variation od D/s relationships, in which Master has complete authority over the slave. Before an M/s relationship, there is a period of consideration and a period of slave training. Both M/s and D/s relationships are part of BDSM.
Here is one ingenious thought – slave is submissive to the Master but at the same time – both Master and a slave are of the same importance to the power dynamic. To have a Master without a slave is much like a captain without a ship (and the other way around).
We also have a Master/ slave contract – which you can find at the very bottom of this post.
BDSM slave training basics
Here are some general guidelines on how to approach:
- The slave needs to be regularly reminded throughout the session/ day to feel owned.
- Ways to remind her can be subtle or obtrusive.
- Always be assertive when communicating your orders.
- Be consistent in practicing dominance. ( I find this very important – this one is listed two times.)
- Never ignore her wrongdoings. Punish her accordingly every time. This is the continuation of the guidelines listed before.
- Teach your slave using positive and motivational methods. Incorporate games like hide & seek, go find, retrieve,…
- Avoid giving commands that you know you can’t enforce. If a command is neither complied with nor enforced, your slave will learn that commands are optional.
- One command should equal one response.
- Use a calm and authoritative tone when giving commands.
All the ideas listed here are written from a perspective where a male is a Master, and a female is a slave. However, all the ideas can easily be turned around.
List of ideas for BDSM slave training
1. Set rules on how to address you in private and in public.
2. Be consistent.
3. Engage in pet play occasionally. Put her on a leash, lube, and insert a tail butt plug and gag her with a bulb.
4. Your word is the last word.
5. Reward her by fulfilling her fantasy.
6. Make her cook and serve while wearing an only apron and a collar.
7. Make her take pictures for you in any position or outfit you wish.
8. Hand feed her.
9. Caress her with a tickler. If she makes any sound, punish her.
10. Give her a task each day and make sure it is done.
11. Allow her to please you sexually. Use it as a reward.
12. Dress your slave. A servant costume is a convenient choice.
13. Her body needs to be shaven at all times.
14. Use ”slut”, ”pet”, when calling her. Read other dirty talk examples you can use.
15. Give your slave this SEXY spanking skirt see-through skirt as a gift and then spank her. Remember, spanking is your slave’s reward. Get a latex spray because the skirt comes in a matte finish. You need
16. Pet her.
17. Call her and make her masturbate for you.
18. Forbid eye contact unless you allow it.
19. Make her worship your cock.
20. Flog her if she does not obey.
21. Have her polish your shoes every week.
22. Make her keep a diary of her submission.
23. The slave has to wear nipple clamps while eating dinner. Alternatively, clamp her clit and nipples together.
24. Brand her.
25. Lube her up and insert her favorite glow-in-the-dark plug. When she thinks she is done for the day, ram her ass with the huge Tantus The Queen plug.
26. Try bondage on your slave.
27. Make her call you every day at a certain time.
28. Respect and push her limits.
29. Choose her clothing combination for each day.
30. Interrupt her and use her sexually. Do whatever you want to.
31. Make her crawl to you or around you, showing you what is yours.
32. Deny her orgasms for as long as you want to.
33. Give her an occasional ride on the Cowgirl sex machine.
34. Write on her body.
35. Buy a collar with a bell for your slave to wear. It is a constant reminder of submission.
36. Make her wear nothing but heels, a collar, and a leash.
37. Expose your slave’s holes with a spreader bar so you can use her sexually.
38. Buy an anklet and make her wear one every day.
39. Rstrain them properly with hog-tie restraints, and use their mouth.
40. Praise her if she pleased you well.
41. Train her to know all submissive positions.
42. Use wax as a form of punishment
43. Buy a Jawbreaker ball gag and keep her quiet.
44. She has to ask you for food, drinks, and a bathroom.
45. Keep her in a cage occasionally.
46. Teach her obedience.
47. After the punishment, have her kiss your shoes and thank you for loving her enough to correct her.
48. Experiment with Wartenberg pinwheel and sensation play.
49. Occasionally, make her eat from a bowl.
50. Teach her how to move gracefully.
51. Restrain your slave to teach patience or to use them (these cuffs are the perfect gift for your slave).
52. Allow the slave to accompany you by kneeling beside you.
53. Make your slave kneel while you collar them.
54. Punish her if she makes any sound while you please her.
55. Lock her in a chastity device. Reward your slave with an orgasm every now and then.
56. Give your slave a writing assignment. Write ”My place is on my knees before my Master” 100 times.
57. Use a riding crop to direct her or to punish her when she doesn’t obey.
58. Explore forced orgasm play with under the bed restraint system and a want.
59. Praise her if she pleased you well.
Slave training tracker
Couples that want to keep track progress of punishments, rewards, or habits can check out the Obedience app for phones.
Obedience app, which we reviewed here, is a tracker app specially created for BDSM couples. Partners will be able to track the progress of daily and weekly tasks inside the app. The Dominant partner will be in charge of punishments and rewards.
It’s a neat option for couples who are in such a dynamic or live far apart.
Master/ slave contract
If you want to take it one step further – we have prepared a Master/ slave contract for you.
A contract is a great way to start the relationship as it brings many topics to the table, including the more difficult ones. This way you’ll be able to discuss your goals, expectations, wants, needs, and limits.
Contracts are a great way for beginners to start that conversation and no, the contract is not a way to make someone stay – the contract is a way to start a conversation and define your relationship.
This document is not legally binding and it should be used to improve your role play. And in addition to that, it can provide direction and a place to turn to when there are disagreements.
We created an 8 page long Master/slave contract, with the following table of contents:
1. Slave’s Role
2. Slave’s Veto
3. Master’s Role
4. Punishment
5. Rules of Punishment
6. Permanent Bodily Harm
7. Others
8. Alteration of Contract
9. Termination of Contract
10. Slave’s Signature
11. Master’s Signature
12. Witness’ Signature
You can get this contract by subscribing right below.
How do you make your slave feel owned? Tell us in the comments below.
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I have always found your insights yo be always right on and It makes me want to try them out on my wife right away.
Please Keep up your good work
Hey Ted, glad to hear that.
And thanks for being here with us!
Luka
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I seek for an Obedient, honest loyal and understanding male slave submissive to be my property to owned, Pegged and collared 24/7 again. Not here for stupid games either online sex video chat or for just a one night stand
I would love to be a sissy slave to a man who has a very big cock. As my master, I will always follow his direction. I will always be grateful for him. I am a white 66 year old married man who has a thing for masters to train me to serve my master and who he wants me to serve. I have Ed so I can not get a hard on . But will always do as my master tells me to do. As his slave I expect to eat out of a bowl and drink out of a bowl and be on a leash. The only thing I will not do is hurt someone else.