How To Titty Fuck In Steps

What is titty fucking?

Titty fucking is rubbing a penis (or dildo) between breasts. In most pornographic representations, it involves someone with larger breasts. In reality, any chest can be titty fucked! In porn, titty fucking videos almost always involve a flesh penis, but it can be done with a dildo as well.

Consent (use your words)

Titty fucking is much derided by cis-women, mostly because there is little communication around this activity from their partners. Talking about what you both want from the activity is important for a pleasurable experience for everyone. 

Consent can be as simple as asking your partner if they would be okay with engaging in some titty fucking. That is the bare minimum when it comes to consent. 

Consent discussions should include positions, if a partner ejaculates, where any ejaculate should land, and how each partner will indicate they want to change positions or stop. This does not mean you have to sit down across a boardroom table and lay out diagrams to negotiate. Negotiation can be part of foreplay and it can be sexy!

Texting or opening the conversation with, “How would you feel about me fucking your tits?” can be a great (and fun) start. Talk about the why as well as the how and what. If a partner understands why you want to try this and talks about their fantasies, this can be very insightful. It is also hot knowing your partner(s) have been thinking about you in sexy ways.

Make sure to talk about body fluids. Some folks are very comfortable with ejaculate and vaginal juices. Others are not. Some people like ejaculate or other body fluids on their breasts, chest, face, or other places. Some hate it. Clear communication about what, where, and how will make the experience better for everyone.

Preparation for titty fucking

As with any sexual activity, preparation is key for a great time! Of course, you can have one person hold their breasts close together while the other inserts a penis, but adding a little pre-planning can heighten the sensations for everyone!

Lubrication is key to making sure it feels as good as possible for both partners. Lube will increase the sensation both on the penis and on the breasts. It also ensures no chafing.

Because some lubricants contain ingredients which cause skin irritation for people, make sure to ask a partner if they have any topical allergies. Sliquid Sassy Booty Formula works well for any form of titty fucking. It is a long-lasting water-based lube and it does not stain sheets. If you want to add some extra sensation to your session, consider adding a cooling or heating lubricant. These lubes have ingredients which give people a warm or cool “tingling” sensation when they contact skin. 

If you want to add some breast stimulation to the session (beyond just the titty fucking), consider adding flavored lubricants. This will give the person licking the breasts a tasty treat and prepare them for sexy fun times.

Warming up both partners for the event should also be considered. If both people are aroused prior to any titty fucking, it will be more fun for all parties involved. This can include any form of foreplay, including kissing, petting, making out, or other activities you both find arousing.

Breast positioning

To get the most sensation out of a titty fuck, the breasts should be close together. Most folks with breast tissue do not have titties that are naturally smashed together. This will necessitate finding a way to keep them close to each other.

Hands are your first option. Have the partner with breasts put one hand on the outside of each breast and push them together. This works great for folks with bigger breasts and who have a full range of mobility and both limbs.

If the person with the breasts getting titty fucked does not want to, or cannot, hold their breasts together for an extended time period, there are other options. Tight fitting sports bras with an elastic band on the bottom can work well. Many sports bras naturally create a “uni-boob” because they compress the breasts against the body. This is perfect for titty fucking!

Another alternative is tying the breasts together with a rope. Creating a chest harness which compresses the breasts is a great option for holding them close together and allowing the person getting titty fucked to use their hands for other purposes. Bondage tape is a great restraint option, especially if you are not an experienced rope top. You can always use soft bondage rope to tie up a person’s chest. Make sure you have five times the length as the widest part of their chest to ensure a minimum effective length for tying.

This video course from Kink Academy teaches Chest Harness Styles that is great for titty fucking.

Titty fuck positions

The classic position

The classic positioning for titty fucking is to have the person with breasts lie on their back and hold their titties together while the man straddles them. This is a great position (there is a reason it is a classic) if you have a partner with good knees and both partners are slim enough to do this comfortably.

There are alternative positions which may work better for some people. Depending on your body size, ability, mobility, and endurance, you may want to consider an alternative.

Split decision

This position consists of the person with the penis or dildo standing and facing their partner and the person with breasts on their knees. This position reduces the pressure on the torso of the person with breasts and allows a greater range of motion for the person with the penis. The kneeling partner can use their hands to play with the standing partner’s backside, their nipples, or other body parts to increase arousal. To ease pressure on the knees of the kneeling partner, consider using a pillow or knee pads.

If you are into power exchange or bondage, consider handcuffing the kneeling partner and tying their breasts together. This adds a super sexy look and feel to the whole event.

Seated titty fuck positon

If the person with breasts does not have the capacity or desire to stay on their knees, consider using a chair. The person getting titty fucked sits in a chair while their partner stands in front of them. This is also a great position for partners of disparate heights. Finding an appropriate height chair can eliminate the need for the person with the penis to crouch or kneel to access the breasts.

7-7 position

In this position, the person getting titty fucked lies down on their back. The person with the penis lies on top of them facing their partner’s feet. This allows titty fucking from the top of the cleavage which will add variety. Additionally, the person on the bottom will be able to lick their partner’s bum and thighs if desired. 

This position is great if both partners have limitations with their knees. It reduces a significant amount of pressure when compared to standing and kneeling positions. If the partner on the bottom is uncomfortable with their legs flat on the bed or floor (common for people with lower back problems), add a bolster under their knees for additional support.

Woman astride

Most titty fucking positions are designed for the person with a penis to take control of the event. However, allowing the person with the breasts to control the action can be hot as well! In this position, the person with the breasts straddles their partner’s legs and then lowers their breasts over the penis and controls the action.

Reverse woman astride

This position is fantastic if the person with the breasts wants additional stimulation during titty fucking. The person with the penis lies on their back. The person with the breasts sits astride their torso and lowers their breasts over the penis, then controls the stroking. This exposes the backside and vulva or testicles to the person on the bottom for pleasure. The person getting titty fucked can lick, suck, use their fingers and sex toys to stimulate the partner on top. ,

Penis as a tool

Throughout the act, the giving partner can enhance the experience by engaging in nipple stimulation. Using the head of the penis, they can gently tap, trace circular motions, or combine these techniques to stimulate the nipples of the receiving partner. This added dimension of pleasure can be incredibly arousing and intensify the experience for both parties.

Small breast considerations

Just because you or a partner is small breasted does not mean you must forgo titty fucking! Small breasts can still be pushed together to create a soft and snug space to a penis. You may have to stand a bit closer or lie a bit flatter to fully access folks with an A or B cup, but it is still possible to enjoy titty fucking!

For very small breasted folks, pushing some of the lymph material under the armpits into the breasts will create a fuller breast area. The lymph nodes are in the armpit and move toward the breasts. By placing your palms into your armpits and pressing that flesh toward the breasts you will add an inch or two of body mass to the titties. This is true for folks assigned male or female at birth.

Post-mastectomy titty fucking

A mastectomy is the removal of one or both breasts, usually due to cancer. Some people opt to have their breasts rebuilt either with implants or fat harvested from other sites on the body after a mastectomy. Others do not. In either case, titty fucking is still an option!

There are a few things to keep in mind if you or a partner has had a mastectomy. First, make sure the person has medical clearance to play! It takes weeks to months after a mastectomy for the sutures to heal enough to safely play with the chest area. There are both internal and external stitches which must heal prior to safe play. Just because the external stitches have been removed, this is not an indication it is safe to titty fuck.

Second, it takes time, often more than a year, for full sensation to return to the area. For many folks who have had a mastectomy, the loss of sensation is very upsetting. Trying to titty fuck when the person with the mastectomy cannot feel the area can trigger negative emotional reactions. Make sure to talk about this with your partner before any activity. Additionally, it is okay to start trying to titty fuck and need to stop because you are bothered by the lack of sensation for you. Communication is key to a fun time!

Using a dildo instead of a penis

Some people enjoy titty fucking using a dildo with a harness. This can be for folks born with or without a penis. If you chose to engage in this, lube is especially important. Dildos of any material have a greater chance of chaffing or pulling skin than a flesh penis. The Sliquid water based lubricant recommended above will work on any material and is a great option. 

Titty fucking aftercare

Titty fucking, like any form of sexual play, should include some form of post-play care. This may simply be a few minutes of cuddling, a high-five, or using the bathroom. It may involve more elaborate steps like wrapping someone in a soft blanket and holding them, making someone a sandwich, or a smoke. Make sure to talk to your partner about what they want after sex. Even if all it includes is a high-five and a kiss, having a post-sex ritual will leave all parties feeling better about the encounter.

Common mistakes

The most common mistake of titty fucking is not talking to a partner first. Because this act is relatively low risk for people, there is often an assumption that you can introduce it without asking first. Talking about what you and your partner(s) want will prevent missteps or hurt feelings.

Another reason many cis-women dislike titty fucking is that their partners don’t think about their pleasure. Making sure the positioning is comfortable, your partner is aroused, and the titty fucking feels as pleasurable as possible will greatly increase the chance she/they will let you do this again!

Bottom line

Whatever positions you choose, which lube is used, and what bodily fluids are or are not involved are ultimately less important than communication about titty fucking. This includes talking about it before, during, and after. It takes practice to get comfortable talking about what you desire. The payoff of good communication around intimacy will pay huge dividends.