Squirting naturally happens for some vagina owners on this planet. For others, it is a myth or a fairytale they only dream about. However, how to squirt can usually be learned and hopefully, we’re going to help you get there.
The porn industry has created unrealistic expectations about sex, including squirting, where pornstars climaxes are full of liquid showers. These orgasms are usually faked by actresses who use various methods, including holding water in the vagina to mimic squirting.
But in real life, most people with vulvas can learn how to squirt with the right approach, technique, and practice.
What is squirting?
Squirting usually happens because of G-spot stimulation or dual stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. During squirting, vulva owners expelled the fluid from the vagina’s urethra. The liquid is a combination of urea, creatinine, and uric acid.
G-spot is located on the vagina front wall and swells when you are turned on. The urethra is the tube that takes urine from the bladder to the opening (through which you pee) and is surrounded by glands and tissues, named the urethral sponge.
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When people with vaginas get turned on, their urethral sponge fills with blood, and its glands fill with fluid, causing G-spot swelling. When you are aroused, your G-spot increases and can be easily found and stimulated.
How does squirting feel like?
There is no correct or exact answer to this question because everyone experiences squirting in their own way. Some say it’s like a wet and more intense climax, while others claim it doesn’t feel like an orgasm.
Some may feel an urge to pee due to pressure on the urethra, which is normal. For many people, squirting is a whole new experience that can’t be compared to anything else. It is an intense and unique release that will blow your mind and body.
Can everyone squirt?
There is still a lot of confusion, mystery, and ignorance around sexual pleasures, along with orgasms and squirting. Unfortunately, we don’t have enough scientific data to know if all people with vaginas can squirt because this area hasn’t been researched enough.
But many sex therapists claim that anyone can squirt with the right approach, methods, and stimulations.
What positions are good for squirting?
The perfect position for solo or partnered squirting is any position that arouses your clitoris and G-spot at the same time.
Try one of those sex positions below; you can play with your clitoris while your partner’s penis or strap-on stimulates your G-spot.
The best squirting sex position to try with your lover:
- doggy style
- cowgirl or reverse cowgirl
- missionary
- spooning
Many people with vaginas can’t spray during sexual intercourse, so you can experiment differently:
- try toys for dual stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot
- your partner can use vibrators or fingers to excite the G-spot, while you can play with your clitoris; using your fingers or sex toys
- your partner can finger you and perform cunnilingus at the same time.
If you are trying to make yourself squirt, try positions where you can easily stimulate your G-spot and clit.
General tips and tricks for squirting
A common misconception about squirting is that many can’t experience it because they use the wrong technique. But the truth is that vulva owners often hold back and can’t relax, so they are not completely aroused and ready for the squirting.
Feelings like anxiety, stress, and exhaustion, along with high expectations, can make it impossible for them to really let go and squirt. If you ever tried squirting before and failed, don’t rush again.
Slow down, take time and enjoy practicing alone or with your partner. You can prepare the room and put some towels on the floor or even try it in the bathtub.
Water-based lubricants are always the perfect equipment that enhances arousal, sensations, and your natural body lubrication. It will also prevent dryness, soreness, and injuries, especially if you will use toys.
The G-spot stimulation is the crucial step that leads to squirting. But first, you need to locate it. Finding this secret treasure can be a challenge if you are not fully aroused.
G-spot is only getting bigger while you are getting turned on, so that’s why you need to first get yourself worked up. If you never try to find your G-spot before, you will need a mirror, a comfortable position, and hungry eyes.
Sit on the floor with a mirror between your legs and insert a finger inside you. The G-spot hides 1.5 – 3.15 inches (4 – 8 cm) from the entrance on the upper wall of the vagina. When you move your finger up towards the belly button, you can feel it.
Some vulva owners may only squirt because of dual stimulation of the clitoris and the G-spot. Explore your body and arouse both areas with toys for double pleasure, like Womanizer Duo or We-Vibe Nova 2.
For many vaginal owners, squirting can only happen when their G-spot is completely swollen and filled with blood. If you feel like you need to pee, this is a good sign that you will squirt because the tissue around your urethra has filled with blood.
Tips for making yourself squirt
Some people prefer to practice squirting on their own before trying it with their lover. The first rule is to relax and not rush. Take your time, experiment, and don’t force your body.
Getting ready
Creating a comfortable routine before the event will help you relax, which should be your number one priority. Give yourself enough time for the solo session and find a way to release mind and body tension.
Take a shower, meditate, go for a walk, or rest in bed – whatever you need to feel ready to squirt.
Getting yourself turned on
Squirting requires extra preparation so enjoy getting ready. Do what you need to get fully turned on and ready to squirt. Try a massage, use sex toys or other tools, fantasize, read erotica, or watch porn.
Don’t think about orgasm, G-spot, or squirting – please your body and warm it up until you’re eager to squirt.
Stimulate your G-spot
When you reach the spot, take time to excite it with a slow and soft touch. Don’t rush or force the sensation and gently enjoy your body.
Arouse your G-spot with your fingers or a vibrator. These special, curved-tip vibrators are designed to help you reach and please the parts.
When your G-spot is stimulated, it can become even larger, making its parts sensitive or painful. Continue slowly and gently without causing discomfort.
Some may ejaculate during G-spot stimulation or with a double stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. Others may ejaculate only at the end when their vagina is no longer penetrated.
Every body is different, so take the time to discover your way to squirting.
Tips for making your partner squirt
If you want to make your partner squirt, relax and get comfortable. Cuddle, rest or take a bath together and get ready for the play.
Take your time and enjoy extended foreplay with massages, sex toys, erotica, pornography, rubbing, fingering, and cunnilingus. You need to completely arouse your lover so that you can find and stimulate their G-spot. Use your favorite lubricant and spoil them for the grand finale.
You can stimulate your partner’s G-spot with fingers, toys, strap-on dildos, or a penis. Play with their clitoris and explore the G-spot area with the same motions and pressure without stopping or slowing down (only if they ask you to).
Don’t give up if don’t succeed the first time because squirting can require a lot of practice and patience. You can choose new sex toys, change positions and enjoy experimenting without the pressure.
Sex toys for squirting
Sex toys are always an excellent idea for experimenting and improving your sex life. With the proper sex tool, you can experience the notorious liquid shower by yourself or with your lover.
Squirting requires more preparation and work, so buying a sex toy is more than welcome. Many sex gadgets will make your practice faster, easier, and juicer.
G-spot vibrators and dildos with curved tips are perfect for intense G-spot stimulation.
Most vulva owners need double stimulation to squirt, so get yourself another sexy helper to excite your clitoris and make you ready for a big squirt. Magic Wands and clitoral vibrators are everyone’s favorite.
If you want one toy for double work, choose the We-Vibe Nova 2, which was designed for dual pleasure and intense stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot.
Grab your favorite lubricant, experiment with different toys, and see what works for you.
On a side note, if you’re not sure which lubricant to choose read our articles on lubricants:
Further education
See the following resources if you wish to learn more on the topic. Mind that links are 18+ and are educational but explicit videos. Links will take you to the Kink University website and while the small part of the videos is free, you’re going to have to subscribe for the whole thing.
Kink University is one of the few sites we wholeheartedly recommend for kink education.
- How to make her squirt – female ejaculation at Kink University
- Squirting 101 with Flower Tucci at Kink University
Folks on Instagram on how to squirt
We had a great response on the Instagram post – sharing the best tips & stories:
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Final thoughts
Those methods can help you enter the squirting world but don’t worry if it doesn’t happen. It often takes a lot of experimentation, training, and mistakes to achieve squirting.
Pressure, rush, stress, and forcing your body to squirt will only keep you away from the liquid shower.
Many vagina owners experience squirting when the pressure is over. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey without focusing on the destination, and learn more about your body and pleasures.
From our workshop
Making women squirt has been a great joy of mine for over 30 years! Some it cums easy and others must be taught and trained to squirt, some squirt only a small amount and others can fill an 8oz glass in a single squirt event , and so so over and over throughout the day or night . All women are physically, emotionally and psychologically unique and some have smaller gspots than others, but over time small gspots can be stimulated to swell up larger for those who’ve not had sustained peak pleasure of the gspot. But proper technique is essential to making a woman squirt, and pressure, angle, rhythm and intensity as well as increasing pace and not too much edging are all part of the process that can be successfully learned for self exploration or done by a play partner. Not covered in this article is the fact that women also can receive gspot stimulation through anal sex and some women squirt while being fucked in the ass after first fingering the gspot and warming up the gapot. Squirt is not pee as many had thought but comes from the Skene’s gland. In my experience and all the feedback I have received from my submissives and play partners over decades, is that the gspot orgasm is the most powerful of all orgasms , causing strong whole pelvic convulsions which result in a deep and hard constriction of the pussy that makes women squirt. I have made some women squirt as high up to their face! I am willing to share my knowledge for the pleasure of women everywhere , which is why I read this article, as I wanted to see what was out there overseas. Sadly like many female sexuality elements, squirting is not yet widely understood and I wish there was more research as I know many women who could show and help others. Sincerely, GspotGuru on FetLife, (USA)