The femme behind the Femme Forth website & blog.
Time flies – it feels like yesterday when we published our first Q&A – with Amy Norton from Coffee&Kink blog. However that Q&A was published in April of this year. :O
Since then, we did 14 (this one is 15th) Q&A sessions and I have to say, we are very proud that we had a chance to ‘meet’ all those people. Awesome!
Femme Forth
This Q&A is a result of one comment on our Instagram profile. That comment led to a DM and the DM led to e-mail and here we are! Well, let’s get to the point.
The femme behind the Femme Forth website is Jaylene Cherie. We won’t be telling much about her and what she does – we asked her and I think that’s the best way. However, we’ll share some background so you get into the story.
Jaylene grew up in Lower Mainland of British Columbia, where, as she says, she experienced many expectations of society that contribute to the oppression of sexuality. As a result of seeing her own and other people’s experiences, traumas, and barriers, Jaylene decided to dedicate herself to that cause.
She helps other people open the world of sexuality and also become happy and confident in that.
Slowly but surely she became ”fluent” in these areas:
- Psychological and physiological aspects of sex and sexuality
- Sexual oppression
- Alternative sex/BDSM
- Feminism
- Sexual and/or romantic relationships
- Sexual safety
- History of women’s sexuality
To find out more about Jaylene visit the Femme Forth blog or her YouTube channel. Other social media profiles are listed below in the Q&A.
Q&A – Jaylene Cherie
Can you tell us a few words about yourself, where are you from?
Hello! My name is Jaylene, I am a 24 year old quirky and bright femme who works as a Sex + BDSM coach in Vancouver, B.C. I graduated with both a Wellness Counselor Diploma and a Life Coaching Diploma from Rhodes Wellness College- a post-secondary school that specializes in the holistic approach to mental health practices of therapy.
I am the creator of @femmeforth, a social platform that I started over a year ago that invites and open the healing discussion and education of sex, BDSM, and gender topics!
We want to know more about the services you provide (workshops & sex coaching).
For my workshops, I created a sexuality empowerment workshop for femmes called FEMME FORTH. There had been a lot of awareness coming about in seeing the amount of oppression/control in our Westen culture when it comes to sexuality particularly femmes. The problem here, is that most of femmes do not know why, or how, these sociopolitical influences are affecting such a normal and healthy key part of how they view sexuality and their sex life! So, I decided I wanted to show femmes what these barriers are and how to overcome them confidently, without shame.
For my Sex Coaching, I provide one-on-one (or partners) talk therapy witha solution-focused perspective. I feel like the most common question I ask is “What would people come to you about?”. For example, having low libido with your partner?
Let’s discuss the ways you feel held back, in a holistic mindframe (emotionally, mentally, physically), then see what we can do to move forward. I always advertise myself as a BDSM coach as well, as I feel like there is a huge part of sexuality that involves this- fetishes, kinks… Yet it can be hard to come forward about these things, looking at the surrounding stigmas involved, so, after doing my own extensive research and experience, I wanted to be that person who can wave a sign to them and say “Here! This can be a safe space for you too!”
What is your advice for people who would like to get into BDSM? How to connect with people?
First off, I feel excited for you that you are wanting to explore these other facets of yours! Like most sex, watching the porn is inaccurate- do not think you are an expert after watching a couple of videos that are meant solely for viewer’s pleasure, not instruction!
One thing I tell my clients is that BDSM is on a spectrum, and is a very vast network of branches of kinks, so starting slowly is key in learning what “branches” you want to venture up, and which you want to put limits on climbing.
Learn what safewords, aftercare, and negotiation are. In the BDSM world, it can be difficult to connect in open spaces sometimes because of the “taboo” aspect it can carry, so there are sites such as Fetlife that you can use (use with caution, there are fake Doms/profiles on there that use BDSM for selfish/unsafe intentions). If you feel more confident and outspoken of your kinky nature , if you are using any dating app/sites,
I suggest writing that you are kinky/into BDSM in your profile- those that are a little more reserved to be public about it will most likely connect with you.
There are a lot more kinky people in this world than those who shout it! In person? Start with asking them if they have any sexual fantasies, generally you can pick up their “kink” vibe!
Do you think one could benefit from introducing BDSM into their life?
I think, from both my own personal experience and research, that BDSM can not only be a place of exploring and learning more about yourself, but it also has healing properties to it.
For example, the dynamics of Domination and subordination shows a situation where both people are exchanging the gain/loss of control that satisfies an inner need to express themselves in either losing control, but knowing they are completely taken cared for in that space, or gaining more (or complete) control of a space/person, but knowing they are responsible for creating a safe space.
With these exchanges when done right, it creates a full circle of complete connection, having each person give and take a part of themselves for that time of play. For me, BDSM has been a place of witnessing different parts of myself that I generally feel too vulnerable showing in everyday life, as it creates time for me to connect to those parts of myself that I do not bring into light all the time.
What are your favorite kinks/ fetishes? Do you have any dear sex toys?
My mind goes a mile a minute when it comes to what intrigues me most in the moment, the BDSM and kink world is too vast to comprehend!
To sum me up, however, I definitely enjoy power plays as both a sub (mostly) and as a Domme, impact play- spankings, you are a treat- and I enjoy the ravishment aspect of CNC, which is consensual-non-consent.
I definitely enjoy my vibrator for solo play, but I like incorporating with trusted partners sensation toys, such as candle wax, pinwheel, etc.!
Before we end, are there any social media profiles or websites that you would like to recommend?
Yes, I actually have free Youtube videos that I upload weekly that talks/teaches topics of sex, BDSM, and gender that you should check out, for those beginning BDSM, it would be handy to watch my “BDSM ADVICE FOR BEGINNERS” video for necessary tips/knowledge on getting started!
For all the extra tips and discussions, my Instagram is a really good platform I created to help further sex-positive views and a non-judgemental dialogue of sex and BDSM. If Instagram isn’t your thing, maybe Facebook is!
https://www.instagram.com/femmeforth/
https://www.facebook.com/femmeforth/
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