Public Sex: How NOT To Do It

Public sex (or at least the idea of it) is hella popular, there’s no doubt about that. The adrenaline that comes with the risk of getting caught can be such a turn-on, especially for those of us that enjoy a little exhibitionism.

Having sex outside of the confines of your home is novel, it’s experimental and it can be mind-blowing.

But whether you’re trying out public sex for the first time or are already well-practiced, there are a few things to be aware of before heading out into the wild to get down and dirty.

In fact, learning how to do public sex right is perhaps best illustrated by learning what NOT to do – so without further ado, here are 5 ways to definitely NOT do public sex.

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How not to have sex in public:

DON’T do it with someone you do not trust

Public sex can be incredible, but it’s best not to end your first Tinder date with a quickie behind the bushes.

Anything involving this much risk should ideally be saved to enjoy with someone you trust, like a long-term partner.

DON’T have public sex whilst under the influence

Yes, alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and yes, it might make the idea of public sex all the more exciting. But it also reduces your ability to perceive risk.

Public sex is not something to be taken lightly, so for the sake of yourself and potentially those around you, leave it until you have a clear head to decide if it’s for you.

DON’T involve anyone else who has not given consent

The fear of getting caught can be a turn-on, but it’s important to ensure you don’t end up in front of the unsuspecting eyes of the general public.

Consent is absolutely mandatory from anyone involved in your public sex encounter – not just you and your partner.

Take precautions so that nobody gets caught in the crossfire who doesn’t wish to be there.

DON’T be naïve to the law

Again, we know that half of the fun of public sex can be in the fear of getting caught, but there are ways to simulate this feeling without actually putting yourselves at high risk (we’ll cover this briefly in just a moment).

In most countries, having sex in public is a criminal offense, so it’s important to stay level-headed. Be aware of the legal consequences in your country and take precautions to make sure there’s no real risk of being caught in the act.

If you decide you’d rather not take the risk at all, there are plenty of ways to re-create the ‘forbidden’ feeling of public sex without the additional risk.

For example, why not try having sex on your balcony, in the back garden, in a tent on a campsite, or in your car in the garage.

These situations vastly reduce the risk of being caught, without sacrificing the feeling of being somewhere new and exciting.

If you want to take things up a notch further, why not try driving your car out to somewhere secluded in the middle of the night?

Having a quickie in a single public restroom can also be extremely hot. Although the risk level is ramped up a little in these scenarios, you’re still in more control than going al fresco in the park.

Do keep in mind though, that if there is ANY chance a passer-by might see you, you’re still at risk of facing criminal charges in many countries.

Yep, even if you’re in the window of your own home!

DON’T pressure your partner into having sex in public

Public sex can be super hot, but it’s not something to be taken lightly. If you do decide to go for it, make sure you’ve talked it through with your partner, figured out how to minimize the risks, and established that you’re both 100% comfortable.

If on reflection you’re a little unsure, the good news is, you don’t actually have to have sex to get the rush of being sexual in a public space.

Discreetly fondling each other under the table at a restaurant, or even sexting whilst together in a public place can feel just as exciting.

Other creative ways to live out your exhibitionist/voyeur fantasies include:

Hosting or attending a sex party
Finding friends who want to watch you (or vice versa)
Using role play to live out your public sex fantasy from the safety of your own home

The key to disaster-free public sex is to take it seriously, be aware of the rules and prepare well.

Spontaneity is great, but when the law is at play, it’s important to take the right precautions instead of jumping into it without doing your research.