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“Ass play,” or “butt stuff,” as it is known in straight guys’ circles, is one of the sexual practices that has gained a lot of popularity lately, despite being seen as a massive taboo just a short while ago.

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Even today, there is a degree of stigma that follows guys who enjoy being bottoms.

Is it gay? Well, if it involves a guy and a girl, how can it be gay?

Not, it’s only thinking outside of the box and letting your body experience new activities.

Pegging is not only an activity that plenty of guys enjoy, it’s also a fantastic way to broaden your sexual horizons, play with gender roles, and also empower this experience altogether.


If you have discussed this with your guy and you don’t know where to start or how to prepare, take a look:

Lube is the most important thing

First and foremost, you have to think about the lube.

True – plenty of gay guys do not use this, but if this is your man’s first time to be pegged, make sure to get one to make this experience tolerable for him.

The first several seconds, even minutes, might be a bit uncomfortable, so he will need something to help him out.

Water-based lubricants are the best as they are safe to use with any sex toys.

Speaking of sex toys…

Pegging is an activity that requires a strap-on and a dildo, which quite a few people find purchasing one uncomfortable.

Many don’t even know what kind of strap-on or dildo they need, so what to do here?

The best idea would be to opt for sex toys online, as not only is the purchase discreet, but you can also read comments and reviews and see which one is best for you.

Another thing to bear in mind is that perhaps you might want to use other toys as well, such as a cock ring, a butt plug, or a double-ended vibrator, so it’s always a plus when you have a trusted online sex store

Read Best cock rings.

The actual prep steps

The only thing that women have to do to prepare themselves for pegging is to wear the strap-on a couple of times before the actual process, just to get used to having a penis. On the other hand, guys should do the following:

  • First, it would be a good idea to play with your rectum several days before the pegging process, or simply from time to time. It’s crucial to know how to relax, and this can be easily achieved by yourself. You can also use a dildo or a prostate massager.
  • When it comes to cleaning, it might be too much for some guys to douche before being pegged. If this is not something that you would like to try out now, you simply wash your butt using your fingers (insert them in your butt to clean properly) before the pegging.

Don’t forget to prepare mentally

Pegging is not a process that people easily opt for.

It doesn’t only take physical preparation, but mental as well.

This is why it’s of the utmost importance to talk with your partner before it and make your own set of rules (such as a safe word if you need one). Talk about your expectations but also about any mental blocks that you might have.

On top of that all, go through the pegging process together – see how it is done, what equipment you need, and how to proceed with aftercare.

We really cannot finish this article without congratulating you on your wish to step up your sex game and try out something new.

This is incredibly important in this day and age when we experience stress on so many levels, that we really do not need to bury down any sexual fantasies that we might be having.

Talk with your partner, easily prepare the stage (or the butt) some time before, and simply go with your gut. If both of you want this, there’s no way you’re not going to enjoy it.

Guest author

Peter Minkoff
Peter is a sex and dating columnist for Queer Voices magazine. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.

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